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name: personal-growth
description: Patterns Ben named that he wants to break (self criticism, lying to avoid shame, looking away from losing trades) and what he wants to do more of; check before life advice
sources: [chat]
aliases: [break the pattern, patterns to work on, praise more, light people up]
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- [stated] Very hard on himself; the CEO says it is because he is a high performer and Ben agrees
- [stated] Coping pattern: looks away from things going badly; in trading he does not sell, uses no stop losses, has no exit levels, and stops looking at charts that trend down
- [stated] Lies to people when afraid of shame; told his uncle, who gave him early money for Bitcoin, that he got hacked when he had actually lost it trading
- [stated] Wants to help people much more (coaching clients, his mother) and to repay his uncle when crypto goes well
- [stated] Wants to praise people far more ("light them up like a Christmas tree"): girlfriend, clients, friends; asked to be reminded of this in relationship and coaching advice
- [stated] Feels online thanks from clients are vague; wants to dig for specifics on how he helped
- [stated] Prefers not to live with a girlfriend; likes seeing her a few times a week